these are the words of John Mayer from the live performance DVD – Any Given Thursday, i found this interesting, enjoy!

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i was thinking about relationship as it pertains to song about relationship. it occured to me, i figured out a key to a relationship and how to make it work.

when u first meet somebody u find out they like you first of all. a friend of a friend of theirs tells you he or she really likes you. and it kills u, force you and sends u on the grounds. then somehow u got her phone number. u call her up and start talkin and at the end you say “well, thats a great phone conversation, can i see ya sometime?” and then they say this, they say  “i’d like that..”

“i’d like that” makes u fall on the floor again, ur heart about to stop. nothing feels better than “i’d like that”. so now, ur blood presssure goin, u r six feet off the ground, u can’t sleep because of “i’d like that”.

so u’ve been hanging out for a while and u’ve been calling and talkin on the phone all the time and then u drop the bomb or what feels like the bomb. u say, u know what … “i’ve been thinking about you a while”. and she just went speechless and then you say “what?”… and she said “i’m sorry i’ve just… i’ve.. just.. i’ve been thinking about you too.” BAM! higher than the sky. but now, “i’d like that”..DONE! now you r up to “i’ve been thinking about you.. “

“i’d like that” doesn’t work anymore.

and then a few months past , whatever weeks, whatever makes u feel comfortable you say “i gotta tell you something..” you say this…. ” i’m in love with you…” and nothing in the world sounds better than i’m in love with you and maybe she starts crying.

now what doesn’t work? “i’d like that” and “i’ve been thinking about you”

now fast forward u start sayin “i love you a lot”, six weeks, six months, now u are like… “i wanna marry u, i wanna impregnant u with my love, damn! words just doenst work anymore..”. and then u say this line, u know u’ve used this line before “i just wish they put a new word in the dictionary bigger than love because love just doesn’t describe what i feel.”

and so then now he/she start askin “do you love me?” and you start going “of course i love you, i’ll say it twice, i’ll say it three times”, and then you cross a really interesting point where all of the sudden comes “i hate you, i hate you”. and they are saying “i hate you a lot” and she’s goin “we’re over!!” u say “no we’re not!”

now the words do not work at all, completely meaningless, it doesn’t work anymore,you are throwing punches under water and u know u r done..

you know what the moral of the story is? if there’s any… never ever underestimate the power of “i’d like that” !

ini sepertinya sebuah fenomena yang cukup menarik setelah saya melihat, memandang, menyaksikan, mengalami, memperhatikan, menilik, mengawasi, menganalisa dan mendalami hal ini secara perlahan namun pasti.

hal ini kurang lebih seperti berikut.

pria/ boys/laki-laki/cowo. apabila mereka mempunyai teman-teman wanita yang cukup dekat atau intens, secara otomatis makhluk-makhluk sosial akan memandang sang cowo mempunyai maksud terselubung terhadap sang wanita. padahal niatan sang cowo adalah (mungkin sejujurnya dari hati hanya) berteman.

sedangkan. apabila.

wanita/girls/perempuan/cewe. apabila mereka mempunyai teman-teman pria yang mereka pilih untuk dekat atau intens. jarang sekali ada yang menjudge mereka seperti hal yang terjadi pada pria.

cukup dengan excuse “apaan sih, ga boleh ya ce punya temen deket co? ga cihuy bgt sih..” semua menjadi sah dan dilegalkan oleh mahkamah makhluk-makhluk sosial. lalu dengan berlenggang-kangkung sang cewe boleh juga (dalam beberapa kasus) merangkul tangan sang pria (secara friendly saja – kalau menurut sang wanita) dan berjalan bersama.

namun sepertinya bila excuse itu dibalik “apaan sih, ga boleh ya co punya temen deket ce?” sepertinya excuse ini tidak pernah berlaku dan tidak diterima secara umum oleh makhluk-makhluk sosial. dan juga sepertinya tidak pernah diterima atau diperbolehkan seorang pria (sebagai kebalikan) merangkul tangan seorang wanita (secara friendly).

what is this?
apa gerangan ini?
saya bertanya. dan bertanya. namun tak ada jawabnya.

apakah memang pria/lakilaki/boys/cowo memang pada hakikatnya perilaku mereka selalu diasosiasikan dengan sesuatu yg negatif? seorang pria yang tidak single mendekati seorang wanita sebagai teman akan diasosiasikan dengan nge’dua’in pacar. sementara di sisi lain wanita yang tidak single, pada posisi tertentu bisa dianggap bolehboleh saja dekat dengan pria lain dengan sanggahan ‘berteman’?

kalau begitu adanya. saya tidak terima.

what is this?

Great Indoors – John Mayer

Check your pulse it’s proof that you’re not listening to
The call your life’s been issuing you
The rhythm of a line of idle days

Scared of a world outside you should go explore
Pull all the shades and wander the great indoors
The great indoors

Lamplight makes the shadows play
And posters take the walls away
The T.V. is your window pane
The view won’t let you down
So put your faith in a late night show
I bet you didn’t even know
Depends on how far out you go
The channel numbers change

Scared of a world outside you should go explore
Pull all the shades and wander the great indoors

Though lately I can’t blame you
I have seen the world
And sometimes wish your room had room for two

So go unlock the door
And find what you are here for
Leave the great indoors
Leave the great indoors

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yeas i stole the line from John Mayer. and i have no intention to hide it from anyone, cause it means more than just a line for me. there’s something beyond Leave The Great Indoors.

- it challenged me to see the world out there. to explore. to see that God has a lot more in store. as Sun Tzu said. “in the beginners mind there are many possibilities, in the experts there are few.” So yeah, this is what this blog about, me seeing things as beginners. continually observe and challenge things.

- indoors represent the so-called box we’re living in. how we tend to compartmentalize our thinking. leaving the great indoors is my way of saying thinking out of the box.

- great indoors also represent the sweet-comfort-zone we prefer to stay in. so yeah, leave them once in a while. cause only when you leave that you can realize where you stand and how far you’ve progressed.

so yeah, that’s a little bit introduction from me. to conclude this blog would be very random as it range from daily life topics, to business, to relationship, food, or anything. i would write freely, for freedom is what i seek.  To everyone daring to step into this page, hope you enjoyed my words, my trips outside the great indoors. =D

i just felt like elaborating my previous note, especially on the whole conversation thingy. to give you a slight picture of the chemistry between Jesse (Ethan Hawke) and Celine (Julie Delpy), here’s some of the memorable quotes:

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let me sing you a waltz
out of nowhere out of my thoughts
let me sing you a waltz
about this one night stand

my heart will stay yours until i die
let me sing you a waltz
out of nowhere out of my blues
about this lovely one night stand

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dear all, thank you and welcome, i’ve decided to use wordpress now as my main blog. very much suggested by yosep sugiarto. just recently know him, a warm and great guy he is (and his bro also =D). if any ever wondered where did all my previous post go? you can trace them back here:

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- of course it contains mostly my unnecessary post, when i was vision-less, too young and too suicidal. =p

and i’m still frequently posting notes on my facebook profile. so you might want to catch that also. =] last, but not least, by “all”, i mean:

• those who have passed by either one of my writings. jess & anas (my most loyal visitor and one who keeps me writing), the witty rawis, laras (a great writer n blogger whom i look up to), monica, melia, susan, sandy, assa, cimenk.
• great friends that goes way back to the 90’s, those @ kapuk, those @ binus international.
• stunningly amazing friends at oxygen and jpcc. you guys rock!